But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.Many women have been hurt or disappointed by relationships in their lives and are a little afraid to actively participate in looking for love.
Traditionally, a senior’s love life is not discussed, let alone researched — as author Betty Friedan’s acclaimed book, “The Fountain of Age,” notes.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. -- Stop worrying about how your body looks at your age. And those chunky men you're with have no room to complain. Women's faces are THE most miraculous creations on earth. There's truth to the maxim that older faces reflect character and wisdom. I had pointed out previously to men that some of things they say on dates aren't particularly wise. Just as I advised men to stop talking and LISTEN, it's beneficial when it goes in both directions.
This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. And while I'm confident men over 50 are generally worse at dating than women of that age, I'm equally sure that both genders can learn as they navigate new relationship terrain. Mature women take much better care of themselves, as a rule, than mature men. Regardless, women's bodies -- whatever the age -- are the second most miraculous creations on the planet. If a guy criticizes your body, point him toward a mirror and move on. I've never understood the myths fostered by the makeup industry, but if you want to wear it, okay. When women say they don't want to settle, it never comes across sounding good. I have had dates where for two hours, I was not asked a single question or had an opportunity to talk for more than a moment or two. They left not knowing if I had children (I do) or parents! This goes for both genders, but women over 50 seem to want to size guys up right away in terms of their long term relationship potential.
Certain medications, such as those used to treat high blood pressure and depression, can reduce libido.
So, too, can declining levels of testosterone in both men and women.