When you lose hope, you close yourself off to new opportunities of meeting someone interesting.The key to combating this fear is to change your internal dialog. “never” and “always”), try to frame your frustration positively: “Just because I haven’t met anyone doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone in the future.” Remember, you aren’t a fortune teller (and neither am I).As many of you know I moonlight at night in a Bruce Wayne/Dark Knight sort of way as a dance instructor.And as I've aged from 23 to my present day 33 in those now approaching 10 years of dance instruction, I've seen the first wave of Gen X'ers age out of their youthful 20's as well as seen a wave of divorcees coming online and back into the "dating" marketplace. " I replied, "Well..don't." Regardless, the point was her reaction surprised me in return to see this was that shocking of a revelation to her. Behind all the butterflies and fairy tales, love can sometimes rear an ugly, heartbreaking side. That’s why we spend years upon years in search of our “one true love.” Love means having someone to share your secrets with, someone to support you when times get tough, and even someone to tell you when you’re being a whiney little brat and you need to shut the hell up. Giving up on love is not the solution I know what you’re thinking: “No. I am just fine on my own.” And while I completely believe that you can live life without having that type of companion, I know that deep down, you want one.But just because it doesn’t happen the second you want it to doesn’t mean it will never happen.#7 There’s nothing wrong with being single for a while.In fact, I would say that it’s actually a REALLY good thing.
You could just be too picky and may need to be more open-minded about different types of people. [Read: When does age difference in relationships matter? You might think that you know what you want, but if you keep going for the same type of people and end up heartbroken or unsatisfied with each one, you could be dating the wrong type. You might be a huge pain in the butt, but you’re not unlovable, even if you try to be. I know it’s easy to think this if you’re not finding love, but it’s just not true.So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.While not all of my clients pursue psychotherapy specifically for dating guidance, their goal to be in a fulfilling, healthy relationship often comes up during treatment.I’ve noticed that there are four big fears that my single clients—both men and women—share.