After all, you can wait years for someone else to change." What he decided was, indeed, there were some things he could have done differently—like not tried as hard to be so noncontrolling that his wife felt he had abandoned decision-making entirely.His wife, he came to understand, felt frustrated, as if she were "a married single parent," making too many of the plans and putting out many of the fires of family life, no matter how many chores he assumed. "Like lots of men today," he has since found, "I was very confused about my role as partner." After a few post-divorce years in the mating wilderness, Katz came to realize that framing a relationship in terms of the right or wrong mate is by itself a blind alley. We are not given the right tools to think about relationships.The more traits you pick that are above the average, the lower the statistical odds that you’ll find a match. Increase your criteria to an attractive man at least 6-feet tall who makes ,000, and you’re left with only one.Add another trait — funny, kind, even a political affiliation — and it becomes statistically impossible to find him out of 100 men.(He gets this statistic by adding unhappy marriages and separations to the 50 percent divorce rate). Looks are not a predictor of sexual satisfaction, nor do they correlate to happier marriages. One study of 168 couples found that “the best variables for predicting who would stay married, even better than love, expressions of affection or negativity, was responsiveness, which is closely related to the trait of agreeableness,” Tashiro writes. “Men high in agreeableness are not only more likely to be kind, but also more likely to keep the sexual desire alive in relationships,” he writes.When finding a long-term partner, don’t waste your wishes, he warns. In fact, there “is no reliable association between physical attractiveness and relationship satisfaction,” he writes, quoting from his own research. They are more giving and often more sensitive, which makes for better between-the-sheets action. The process by which single men and women meet and agree to marry can readily be seen as a market phenomenon in which both material and psychological benefits are exchanged in the process of forming and formalizing ongoing relationships. Schroeder (1991) ,"Two Views of Consumption in Mating and Dating", in NA - Advances in Consumer Research Volume 18, eds. Endless types of markets are available for analysis, yet few are as consequential as those that facilitate finding a lifelong partner.
He bought a bigger house and took on the financial burden, working evenings to bring in enough money so his wife could stay home full-time.
xix) used the phrase intimate marketing to refer to certain aspects of romantic relationships.
More recently, Hirschman (1987) and Bernard and Adelman (1990) have looked at formal mate-selection networks (i.e., dating services, singles ads, etc.) to show how courtship can be studied as a special case of marketing and/or consumer behavior.
Briefly, children, with loving and consistently attuned mothers grow up to be adults who see themselves positively, are comfortable seeking out close relationships and depending on others, and don’t worry about being alone or being rejected. According to the work of Kim Bartholomew, anxiously attached people will be “preoccupied” in relationships; they have a negative view of themselves and look to others to validate them.
They are needy and demanding in relationships, and they move from one romance to another.